When it comes to proposals, people get caught up with the idea of perfection. Trying to get the perfect ring, planning the perfect proposal, and saying the perfect words. This is a lot of pressure to put on yourself and it’s quite frankly impossible to achieve.
There is no such thing as a perfect proposal. There is, however, right ways and wrong ways to propose to someone. So, to make that you propose in the right way, here are the proposal faux pas that you need to avoid:
Proposing for the Wrong Reasons
It’s important that you propose for the right reasons. Proposing because you feel like you have to, or that you’ve been together for a certain period of time aren’t the reasons to propose. You should be doing so because you want to make a deeper commitment to your partner and because you want to share your future with them.
Proposing without a Ring
There are a few things we need to dispel here. Firstly, there is no minimum amount that you need to spend. Spend an amount that is reasonable for your circumstances. Secondly, propose with a ring. It just makes the gesture more special and meaningful.
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Telling too many People
Few things ruin the magic of a proposal quite like the surprise being spoiled. So, despite your excitement, keep the people you plan on telling to a minimum. Plus, people tend to have strong opinions on this sort of thing which can cloud your judgement.
Prank Proposals
If at any point you find yourself entertaining this idea, stop it. Just don’t do it.
Acting Suspiciously
When trying to hide something from your partner, you’re bound to act a little differently than usual. Try at all costs to avoid acting suspiciously, because one of two things will happen:
- Your partner will suspect that you’re proposing.
- Your partner will suspect that you’re up to no good.
Neither of which are good for your relationship.
Making it a complete surprise
Contrary to popular belief, a proposal shouldn’t be a complete surprise. Marriage is serious, so before proposing, you and your partner need to be on the same page about your views on the topic.
Even if your partner suspects a proposal is on the horizon, you can still catch them off guard. They have a birthday every year, and we’re sure that you manage to surprise them.
Following Trends
Just because a proposal style is popular, it doesn’t mean it’s right for your partner. It’s important to plan something your partner will love, not what social media will love.
For example, if your partner is shy, don’t plan a public proposal. If your partner has mentioned they’d love their family to be there, then don’t plan something without them present.
Not Saying the actual Words
Finally, make sure that you say the actual words “will you marry me” – or something close to these words. You don’t need to write a script, but take the moment seriously and share how you really feel.
